Tips

Essential Advice for Speakers

  • Prepare early to avoid last minute panic
  • Book several piano accompaniment rehearsals well before the performance
  • Perform a run through to family and friends
  • Organise to arrive in good time
  • Bring a water bottle to the venue – drink lots of water in the days before
  • Stand against a wall to ensure upright posture
  • Subtle knee bends relax tension. Unwind shoulder tension with “turtle” shrugs
  • Take slow deep breaths – before playing, at cadences, between movements. Breathe, breathe, breathe!
  • Forgive yourself occasional mistakes, a squeak or wobbly bow. Play out with a big beautiful sound, exaggerate dynamics
  • Enjoy your music – and so will your listeners!

Essential Advice for Musicians

  • Prepare early to avoid last minute panic
  • Book several piano accompaniment rehearsals well before the performance
  • Perform a run through to family and friends
  • Organise to arrive in good time
  • Bring a water bottle to the venue – drink lots of water in the days before
  • Stand against a wall to ensure upright posture
  • Subtle knee bends relax tension. Unwind shoulder tension with “turtle” shrugs
  • Take slow deep breaths – before playing, at cadences, between movements. Breathe, breathe, breathe!
  • Forgive yourself occasional mistakes, a squeak or wobbly bow. Play out with a big beautiful sound, exaggerate dynamics
  • Enjoy your music – and so will your listeners!

Essential Advice for Parents of Young Musicians

How to ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD’S PRACTICE
Qn. “We lead busy lives! The teacher wants daily practice – how much is enough?”
A. Like food, music needs regular input. Aim for 6 times per week. As a rough guide:
Small children: 10-15 minutes daily.
Teenagers: around 30 minutes. Allow pressured Year 12 students space to juggle demands.

Qn. How to enforce when they slacken?
A. Bribery is better than bludgeon! Suggest:

  • “Practice what you CAN’T play instead of what you CAN.”
  • “Practice in bite-sized bits”
  • “Set GOALS – short-term and do-able, (a concert or exam).
  • Help them schedule a regular time.
  • Check the lesson notebook each week

Qn. “Should I sit in on lessons?”
A. Some children respond better to the teacher one-to-one but discuss with both.

Qn. “I’m not a musician, how can I help?”
A. Your interest helps!

  • Praise works wonders! Don’t comment if early sounds are crude.
  • Suggest (but don’t force) they play to family and friends.
  • Take them to concerts, buy recordings, expose them to a variety of music.
  • Keep instruments in good working order
  • * Buy the best equipment your budget allows

More tips in Practice is a Dirty Word by Ruth Bonetti. 
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HELP YOUR CHILD’S PERFORMANCE of Words/Music
Encourage them to:

  • Prepare early to avoid last minute panic.
  • Book several piano accompaniment rehearsals well before the performance.
  • Suggest a run through to family and friends.
  • Help them organise to arrive in good time.
  • Take a water bottle to the venue.
  • Take slow deep breaths
  • Stand against a wall to ensure upright posture. Subtle knee bends relax tension.
  • Be positive and reassuring. “Just do your best. Some nerves are normal!”
  • But don’t overload with advice; give them space to prepare and focus.
  • A few mistakes in performance don’t spell doom. Tell them you’re proud – whatever happens.

More tips in Confident Music Performance, and in Don’t Freak Out – Speak Out
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